Society is riddled with sin and temptation. Take a stroll around your local mall, and see if you’re not tempted. You are likely lying to yourself and others if you say you don’t find the images tempting.

Imagine that you are a pastor of a church. Pastor’s don’t suffer from temptations, right?

WRONG.

Pastors, and this may come to be a shock to some of you, are human, they sin, they deal with the same temptations, struggles, pains, etc.. that you deal with. Pastor’s are called to be shepherds and guide people to become disciples of Christ. No small feat, as screwed up as you and I are in this world.

Ray Caroll’s book, Fallen Pastor is a book that should be handed out to every seminary student, or anyone that is in ministry.

Scratch that, every adult should read this book. Just because you don’t speak from a pulpit, doesn’t mean you won’t be tempted.

Here’s some questions from the book, that really puts things in perspective:

Have you been with a woman anywhere in the past week, that might be seen as compromising? Have any of your financial dealings lacked integrity? Have you exposed yourself to any sexually explicit material? Have you invested sufficient time with your family?

The formula for fallen pastors is within many church bodies. Have the pastor lifted up like he was the Second Coming, have everyone go to him at all hours of the day with their concerns, struggles, difficulties.

Next, expect the pastor to work insane hours, away from family, away from The Bible.

Now your pastor is tired, wired on coffee (coffee is the official beverage of pastors), disengaged with his wife and family. The Barna Group is mentioned in this book, where church goers expect their pastor to handle 16 major tasks.

Imagine the pastor asking each church member to handle 16 major tasks for the church, every day and week. You’ll have an empty church.

Now, introduce an attractive (to the pastor) woman into the mix. Can be a co-worker, can be a member of the church, someone from the community, online chat member, you name your flavor.

Often this woman has had some challenges of her own, and feels sympathy for the overworked and under-appreciated pastor.

We all seek to know and be known. We also like to be recognized, to the point where pride can sneak in.

She continues to support the pastor, and then something clicks between them. Often just an innocent moment, but when you’re vulnerable, that’s when Satan plants his seed.

Satan knows you better than you know yourself. That’s not a good thing.

One thing leads to another, and then you find yourself violating the 7th Commandment

Now the spin cycle hits overload. You and your new mate either end it right there, or you continue the relationship.

Living a life is really, really hard. Living double lives must be torture.

Eventually, you’ll get caught. You’re not Superman, nor invisible. You’ll stumble.

Now the fun begins. Assuming you survive a beat down from your wife, and/or other family members, the church finds out.

Too often, the church removes the pastor from their pastoral role (which is a good thing at the point of discovery), but they then throw the pastor in the trash, figuratively speaking.

People who do not follow Christ read about stories like this. They see how Christians treat fellow Christians when they stumble, which is likely the main reason people stay far away from Christianity.

Pastors preach God’s unconditional love, salvation, the cross, Jesus, but yet when one of their leaders fall, they take them out back and try to expunge them from existence.

“Friends” scatter like rats, people become (even more) judgmental, and the world as you know it is destroyed.

I’m thankful that fallen pastors can find help and comfort from attending other churches. What’s sad, though, is that the new church is forgiving and open, and they don’t know the pastor.

The church where the pastor poured his life and soul, stops loving, caring, guiding, and so forth.

I’m being judgmental here but when a church fails to help a fallen pastor reconcile their lives with God and family, that church is filled with a bunch of phonies. Those churches are filled with sinners that have no understanding of grace.

What should the fallen pastor feel about the church that threw him under the proverbial bus?

Forgiveness and love.

Pastors need close friendships. Churches need training on how to prevent pastors from falling. Churches also need training on how to handle a pastor if they do fall.

If there isn’t a paradigm shift in how these situations are handled, we will continue to see more fallen pastors.

Pray for your pastors. Offer your love and unconditional support of them. Be open and transparent with them, so they may feel comfortable with being your friend.

Pastors, drop the competitive nature of your position and reach out to other pastors in your community. We’re all related, and we all work for the same Boss.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Ray Carroll, as part of a pre-release reading opportunity. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

When asked to review The Resolution for Women, I at first felt out of place, ala walking into the wrong restroom at the mall (haven’t done that in years, so no worries )

Pricilla Shirer navigates the reader to devote their life completely to God, as well as being a blessing to others by being fully present (very hard to do this, with the distractions we all face.)

A great section in the book covers forgiveness. For 2012, I challenge you to completely forgive everything and everyone that may have harmed or hurt you in the past. The freedom you’ll have is indescribable.

Shirer also covers integrity, heart, and being the woman who truly loves and supports their husband.

Note to husbands: Return the favor! Being a wife and a mom is really hard work. The pay is lousy, but the benefits and blessings our wives provide us is beyond awesome.

I look forward to having my wife read this book, and the other Courageous Movie books.

John Maxwell recently tweeted the following quote: “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” -Robert Louis Stevenson

Our life plants seeds that will grow long after we are gone. Keep that in mind.

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How’s life? Are you living your life to the fullest, or are you going to the post office and buying a lot of stamps, so you can “mail it in?”

It’s easy to fall victim of the status quo. It takes courage to get out of the comfy chair and get going. Leadership takes courage. Raising a family takes courage. Going against society takes courage, because most of society doesn’t get it.

Michael Catt’s book does a great job of showing the different ways you can be courageous in your daily lives.

A key chapter that jumped out at me was the chapter describing how we should look for Millennials with courage. Many of us have Millennial children, who will be our future leaders. The challenge we face is that society is so instant with information access, it can be hard to focus. Strong Biblical guidance and leadership however is timeless.

Catt strategically references Biblical characters throughout the chapters, which ties in nicely with the modern teachings he shares.

Along with The Resolution for Men, this is a great resource for you, and your family!

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Available at your favourite bookseller from B&H Publishing Group”.